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Our little boys come home mid October. Both were just over 6 lbs then.

We are all settling in quite nicely. I have taken 3 weeks off to help us all get adjusted to our new family schedule at home. And yes, it is the 3am feeds that are the worst. trust me.

Richard has been off work since the boys were born and now that they are home he is officially on parental leave for the next 45 weeks. Yes I have to say it again our Canadian system is just that much better, either parent qualifies - and is paid for - for a 35 week parental leave on EI.

After that we both have pretty much another 4 months of holidays banked up between us that we are going to use to ensure that one of us is at home for their entire first year.

The boys are growing by leaps and bounds, Mason is almost at 8lbs! which, on their actual due date of October 24th would have made for a very large twin. Declan is right behind him at 7lbs 6oz.

It is all good.

a little bit early...

Our Sons were born Saturday August 29th 2009. 8 weeks early.

Mason Max at 3lbs 2 oz
Declan Eli at 2lbs 10 oz.

Both boys, our surrogate and the daddies are doing fine. Our tummy mummy was airlifted to 500km to a hospital that can handle level 3 preemies, and we arrived shortly thereafter but were there for the birth.

Mason with his daddies having some kangaroo care.

Declan on his fourth day when we could finally hold him for a few minutes.

It has been a tough few days, especially being in a different city for their birth and being away from our entire support network. The boys are doing well and we hope to be transferred to Vancouver in the next week or so, just waiting on available beds in the NICU. The next 4 to 6 weeks in hospital will be much easier for us all back home.

And don't let anyone ever tell you that the Canadian Healthcare system in " too expensive" or "wasteful" . everything including the jet and ambulances are all covered by our medical plans. Thank God we live in a great country called Canada.

Ideas

A fried of mine sent this to me... ideas to remember the first year and much they change:

Glad to be married

So glad I am no longer single and on the chatlines/ websites. It was much simpler back in the good old days when you actually met the person at the bar and then went from there.

gay lutherans

Even though I am not a religious person, it is nice to see the one I was raised in being more welcoming.

Eye Candy

So everyone needs something to look at right? Even babies. So we have been looking at some different mobiles to hang above the cribs for our boys. You would not believe the amount of shitte that is out there! and how expensive it is! We have narrowed it down a bit to the following four, take a guess as to what we didn't get.

Been busy shall we say?

Where oh where to start..... The house is nearly finished. Just putting the finishing touches on the kitchen and bathroom. And the Nursery.

I have been quite open about our plans to adopt a child/children but a new option presented itself last fall. surrogacy. It was a path that we had not even thought of but she found us through a mutual friend and after a few meetings we decided to give it the old college try and do a round of IVF. Our first attempt was not successful but we tried again in February and voila! We are pregnant!

Pregnant with Twin boys!

Yes we were a bit shocked as well but having always wanted two children this is probably the best case scenario for us. The boys are due in early October but our doctor has told us to be ready, like now. We have a bag packed by the door, the car seats in the closet and the cribs ( yes two of everything) are waiting to be assembled.

We have been incredibly blessed by our supportive families, friends, and co workers. We even just had our first gayby shower! Richard is taking the full parental leave and will be off work for almost a year and I will be taking the first three weeks off. After that the work schedule will adjust... abit.

I have been meaning to get back to this little old blog but nothing seemed right and did not know where to start again. but now, with 3D images to make it all real, here we go on the biggest adventure of our lives.

wish us luck and hopefully, a few posts in between feedings and nappy changes.